Brilio.net - Dewi Yull has long been an inspiration for women because she is the mother-in-law figure that many people dream of. The famous singer in the 90s is known to have a close relationship with her daughter-in-law Merdianti Octavia. In fact, it is not uncommon for the two of them to show off their closeness by creating unique content on social media.
According to Dewi Yull , the relationship between sons-in-law and in-laws can actually be as good as their own biological family as long as there is a sense of sincerity. In a podcast hosted by Nikita Willy, Dewi Yull assessed that most in-laws feel that their children are taken away after they get married and start a new life.
"So why is there conflict between in-laws and in-laws ? Most in-laws feel that their children have been taken, their children have not made sacrifices, they have not been filial in the term," said Dewi Yull, quoted from YouTube Nikita Willy Official, Monday (10/6).
Ray Sahetapy's ex-wife added that parents actually don't have the right to demand many things from a child. The reason is, children cannot choose where they want to be born and in what kind of family.
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Dewi Yull said that parents should not have feelings of reciprocity for their children. The birth of a child in a family is a gift from God, a gift which means it is not to be owned forever.
"But suddenly the mother especially feels 'you were born from me, I wanted to die giving birth to you, I have already sacrificed'. So it's like asking for reciprocity, forgetting that not everyone is entrusted (to the child). This is a problem of entrustment, understanding the entrustment of the one who Almighty," he concluded.
This is the reason why Dewi Yull does not feel that her daughter-in-law is a stranger who has stolen her son. The star of the film Penginapan Bu Broto actually treated Merdianti like her own child.
photo: YouTube/Nikita Willy Official
Dewi Yull admitted that the secret to getting along with her son's wife, Rama Putra Sahetapy, was because she applied knowledge. Moreover, Merdianti is also an open person, so when something makes her feel uncomfortable, she will immediately talk to Dewi Yull. As he openly admitted, he was not good at cooking, washing clothes or cleaning the house.
"When I wanted to get married, I said to my mother, 'Mom, I want to confess because I can't do housework, I can't cook, I can't mop or wash,'" said Merdi.
Dewi Yull's response was beyond Merdianti's expectations. The mother of two children did not expect that her in-laws would respond to this in a relaxed and positive manner.
"Then my in-laws just laughed and said 'same here, high five'. I expected him to be like that, but it turns out he wasn't like that," he explained.
photo: YouTube/Nikita Willy Official
Dewi Yull is confident and believes that as time goes by her daughter-in-law will be able to carry out her duties as a housewife. Because women are truly versatile creatures, especially when it comes to family matters.
Because he will be able to do it later, the proof is that he can do it. I'm sure women are multitaskers and, over time, have children. "A mother's instinct is that she will be able to do anything for her family, I'm sure of that," said Dewi Yull.
Seeing Dewi Yull's wise words made netizens salute the big heart of Ray Sahetapy's ex-wife. Netizens left comments praising Dewi Yul.
" Masya Allah...this knowledge is really good for mothers who will one day become in-laws. Very good, I hope this useful knowledge will be a reward for Mrs. Dewi...be healthy, ma'am ," commented @familikimora.
" Masyaallah Sis Merdi is so lucky to have such kind understanding in-laws, it makes me jealous ," wrote @elazee3008.
" I learned a lot from Mrs. Dewi Yul. Be a wise mother and respect her in-laws ," said @riniwardini.
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