Brilio.net - Oki Setiana Dewi now lives in Egypt with her children to study religion at Al-Azhar University. Her decision sparked speculation that she left Indonesia because her husband, Ory Vitrio, is polygamous.
The issue became even wilder after netizens linked it to a clip of Oki's lecture on polygamy . The old clip was cut and misinterpreted, so many suspected that he was experiencing the same thing.
Feeling his name is constantly associated with the issue, Oki finally spoke up. He asserted that the rumor that he was polygamous was just slander.
" There's gossip. They say Ustazah Oki is in a polygamous marriage ," said Maia Estianty, quoted from an interview on the YouTube channel MAIA ALELDUL TV, Saturday (1/2).
" The news is of course not true, it's slander ," replied Ria Ricis' older brother.
photo: YouTube/MAIA ALELDUL TV
Despite considering the issue as slander, Oki still tried to be wise in responding to it. He felt no need to make a long clarification, but if someone asked, he would answer according to the facts.
" No need to clarify, but if someone asks, okay, answer that ," he added.
Oki explained that his lecture on polygamy was just one of many topics he has delivered for a long time. Unfortunately, the clip was twisted and caused speculation in the community.
" The lecture was given a long time ago, but only a snippet was taken, which gave rise to speculation ," said Oki.
photo: YouTube/MAIA ALELDUL TV
Furthermore, Oki revealed the reason her husband did not live in Egypt. Ory has a business in Indonesia that cannot be completely abandoned, so she must remain in her homeland to manage it.
" Why does my husband have to be in Indonesia? Because we are looking for income through business. It is impossible to leave the business completely, it must be controlled even though there is a team ," he explained.
Despite their long-distance relationship, they still try to maintain communication. Ory routinely goes back and forth between Indonesia and Egypt to meet his wife and children, with the longest gap being about a month.
" Thankfully, the return trip to Egypt is easier because there is an 11-hour direct flight ," concluded Oki.
photo: Instagram/@okisetianadewi
In addition to clarifying the issue, Oki and Maia also discussed polygamy in a broader context. Maia asked how Oki would react if he suddenly had to face polygamy in his own household.
According to him, there are various types of polygamy that can be accepted or rejected, depending on how the husband deals with it. He emphasized the importance of a husband's manners in asking permission from the first wife.
" There are various types, whether you need permission first or just report it, it's different ," he said.
If there is a plan to add a new family, preparations need to be made not only for the second wife, but also for the first wife and children. He emphasized that every decision in the household must consider all parties involved.
" There are manners, Mom. What I mean is, if you add a new family member, you have to be prepared ," he explained.
photo: Instagram/@okisetianadewi
Oki also emphasized that polygamy does not need to be campaigned as a necessity. Not everyone is able to live a polygamous life, and every family has its own strengths and limitations.
" In my opinion, polygamy does not need to be campaigned. Every family has its own strengths ," he said.
The debate about polygamy is never-ending. Maia Estianty firmly rejects polygamy, while Oki provides the view that there are families who are able to live it well.
Ultimately, the decision to accept or reject polygamy comes down to the beliefs and readiness of each individual. There is no one rule that can be applied to everyone, because every household has different dynamics and challenges.
(brl/lea)
