Brilio.net - Every couple has different dynamics and considerations in deciding to return home to their parents' house. Especially if the husband and wife's parents are far apart. This of course requires an agreement that is fair and profitable for both parties. So that no family feels neglected.
This is also what this husband and wife couple did. The considerations actually became the focus of netizens. The story can be seen in the TikTok video posted by the account @santrysabunge.
The woman named Santri and her husband agreed to go home to different places, namely to their respective hometowns. The student went to her home in Manado, while her husband returned to Bangka Belitung. Two areas on different islands and far away.
photo: TikTok/@santrysabunge
They are a couple who have two children. In this case, their children will also celebrate Eid separately. The santri will bring the youngest child, while the husband is asked to accompany the eldest child.
The decision to return home to their respective villages was the result of an agreement between the two of them. How could it not be, these two married couples no longer have a father. So there was only mother who lived alone in the village.
The students certainly couldn't bear to let their mother celebrate Eid Al-Fitr alone if she went home with her husband. Likewise, her husband couldn't possibly be willing to see his mother for Eid without anyone if they decided to go to Manado. Therefore, according to them this is the middle way.
"We decided to go home every year to our respective hometowns," he said in the caption.
"We always try to be fair. So that during Eid everyone is full of happiness," he continued
photo: TikTok/@santrysabunge
Santri as wives of course express their gratitude to their husbands for this understanding. Moreover, my husband never made any demands. The happiness of the Santri is always a priority.
Even though they were separated temporarily when they went home, Santri admitted that she would try to reunite her parents and husband when Eid was over. Usually her husband would bring the two of them together in Malang. Although this does require quite a large amount of money.
"A pleasant definition of wandering. Because our wandering is led by a responsible husband," said Santri.
photo: TikTok/@santrysabunge
This video also went viral and attracted the attention of netizens. Many netizens suggested decision options other than returning to their respective villages. Apart from that, of course there are many who tell stories about their homecoming journey, even though it is not the same as the santri.
"In my opinion, it's good to have a year with your parents and a year with your in-laws, but it's a complete gathering...surely your parents and in-laws also want to see it come together completely," said Akun@nopiemuanezzp.
"Why don't you take turns? For example, this year you'll go to your mother's parents, next year you'll go to your husband's parents. It's so strange to go home alone," wrote the account @jiviankinanthi.
"I've never been like that, I don't want to spend Eid with my husband, take turns for Eid, this year it's my parents' place, next year it's my parents' place, that's how it is," said the account @a3famili.
"Later, the parents will each be invited to their house and meet, right? Because the in-laws also want to meet their daughter-in-law and other grandchildren. I'll definitely miss them," commented the account @fanissaa.
photo: TikTok/@santrysabunge
From the video being posted until this article was written, the @santrysabunge account has gathered 113,800 viewers. Apart from that, there are also thousands of accounts that have given likes and hundreds of comments.