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Brilio.net/en - So you met this girl and you like her. A lot. And you want to be with her. She is smart, mature and independentshes perfect. But then sometimes shes too independent and that leaves you feeling unneeded. Hey, its not true! She, in fact, likes you too and she does want you. Shes only been alone for so long that shes used to deal with her own thing by herself. Shes not a needy person that will tire you so you must be grateful on this. Not all men can have this kind of woman to be his life partner and you can. So a little adjustment here and there is all that you need to match her pace. Here are several tips on dealing with this independent woman:
1. She will do her things without letting you know or asking for your permission.
This doesnt mean that she doesnt look up to you as her partner. She is just used to doing what she wants when she wants it without asking permission or informing anyone before there was you. Just let her do what she wants but ask about her plan for the day and how it went at the end of the day. She will learn to consult with you in due time.
2. She will ask you to take things slowly, because she isnt used to getting all the attention.
She is used to being on her own so this all are new to her. Give her what she want, to take things slowly. She will get used to your attention so dont rush anything in the beginning if you dont want her to run away.
3. Her friends will interrogate you like police and youll think they are overprotective.
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They are not used to seeing her with someone and they have seen her struggle between broken hearts that she decided not to date anyone until you. So be patient with them and show that your intentions for her are true. They will give you a green light once they are certain you will treat her well.
4. She doesnt let you do things for her, even when all other girls would love to be treated like that.
Shes not being arrogant here. Shes just used to taking care of herself and didnt have anyone to help her before. So give her time to get adjusted here and dont stop being the gentleman. She secretly likes it and will look at you as the man of her dreams.
5. She will debate you during arguments and she would demand to get things her way.
This might shock you at first if your former lovers were the type who always said yes. The good thing is you are now dating a woman who knows what she wants, stands up for her rights and would not hesitate to tell you if you are wrong, and would take it fairly when shes the one who does wrong. Dont be scared of thisconsider now youve found a match!
6. She will still need her me time even when you just start to date.
You might get confused because other girls would demand your presence all the time but this one needs her time to be alone. Yes, she does have those butterflies in her stomachthats why she needs to compose herself. Plus, she also has responsibilities that she needs time to do her own business without getting distracted by you, because your presence would make her focus on you.
7. She may pull away from you, especially when she realizes that she likes you a lot.
She needs some time to think her feelings through but dont worry, shell come back to you once she knows her feelings for you are true.
8. She will ask you, question you, and test you to make sure that your feelings for her are true.
Dont get bored with this. Shes guarding herself and not letting you in for a while. She needs to be certain that you are for real, that this is happening between you two, not just in her imagination. She is doing a little test here to see if you are patient and worth it. She is examining you, judging you from every little step that you make if you really deserve a chance.
9. She will say Ive got this so often, even when you can see that she does not.
She is used to trying harder and pushing beyond her own strength and capacity because that was how she survived before. She will learn to delegate work and share burdens with you if you insist. But if you let her do everything on her own, shell think you are unreliable and will leave you instead.
10. She has a big problem in giving trust, so be patient about this, too.
She had been hurt in the past so she expects that this time she doesnt give it away for nothing. When she finally does trust you, treasure it like a glass because once its broken, you will need extra effort to get it all back completely.
11. She looks so strong and way too independent from the outside.
She is surely not for someone with a lose heart indeed. If you get intimidated with this, just leave her now. She needs someone strong enough to break through her walls and once you do, youll see her soft spots that shes been hiding from everyone else.
12. She seems so reserved, timid or composed.
But when you get to know her more, she will unleash the untamed, raw and beautiful version of her that will keep you amazed. You will often find new things about her you didnt know/expect before and you wont get bored of being with her.
13. She will be hiding her weaknesses because that was how she survived life.
She will feel naked and vulnerable when she is not in her greatest moments. Give her strength back with your encouraging words and hugs. She has her own way to heal and your warm embrace will speed up the recovery.
14. She may look brave on the outside but she is scared about a lot of things.
She is scared to get hurt, to love and be loved in return. She is scared that if one day you leave her, she wont know who she was before. Help her get through her fear by keeping your relationship as real as you can, that even without you she is still a complete person and your presence is a compliment to each other.
15. She loves being alone. Its already her comfort zone.
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Even when shes already falling for you, she will need time to finally admit it and say it out loud. But when she does, you know its worth all the fighting youve been doing for her. You know her love will change your life forever, no matter if its just a temporary or a lasting relationship.
(brl/tis)
