foto: TikTok/@abeljaitov
Brilio.net - Still remember the actor Bang Tigor in the comedy show Suami-suami Takut Istri? This muscular actor is back in the spotlight after his son Abel's story stole the public's attention.
Having a father who is known to many people does not make Abel feel the warmth of family like most girls. Bang Tigor's presence in her life did not last until she was an adult, making her feel the loss of a father figure.
Through uploads on TikTok, Abel often shares his heart full of wounds regarding his relationship with his father. The father figure who should have been a place of refuge actually feels increasingly distant from his life.
Their relationship became increasingly strained due to differences in beliefs. Bang Tigor is known to be Muslim, while Abel chose a different path in his beliefs.
photo: TikTok/@abeljaitov
Over time, the 56-year-old actor has built a new family. This allegedly made him increasingly distant from Abel, until his daughter had to vent her feelings on social media.
In his upload on the TikTok account @abeljaitov, Abel wrote an open letter to his father. A deep feeling of longing enveloped Abel's heart when he remembered his father.
" Dad, I don't know how to start this letter because there are so many things I want to say. I miss you, I miss your presence, talking to you, and knowing that you are there ," she wrote.
Childhood memories with his father were still clearly etched in his mind, but everything changed when his father chose a different path in life. The sense of loss that had been suppressed slowly turned into questions that continued to haunt him.
" I don't understand why you left me and Mom for someone else, and honestly, it hurts. I try to be strong, but there are days where the pain is so deep ," she said.
photo: TikTok/@abeljaitov
Abel didn't want to blame or make his father feel guilty, he just wanted to know the reason behind the decision he made. His heart was filled with questions, whether he and his mother were not important enough to be maintained.
" I'm not writing this to make you feel guilty or blame you. I just want to understand, have I ever done something wrong? Do I and Mama not mean enough to you? " asked Abel.
Despite the wounds and distance that separate them, Abel's affection for his father never fades. He hopes that behind all the differences and misunderstandings, there is still a glimmer of hope to fix their relationship.
" Even though I feel hurt and confused, I still love you. I don't know if you still think about me, but I always think about you ," the girl concluded.
photo: TikTok/@abeljaitov
Bang Tigor's whereabouts were revealed through a comment from a netizen who knew him. The 56-year-old man was reported to have long remarried a woman named Aisyah.
" It's been a long time since you remarried my former member at the Bandung gym, her name is Aisyah. I used to go to the gym with her, Bang Tigor is reportedly in Jakarta now ," said @muhmrayyan.
Responding to this, Abel confirmed that his father indeed had a new life with his new wife. Although he was happy, he could not deny that his relationship with his father was less than harmonious, making him often feel deep longing.
" That's right! But I'm happy that Papa is with Sis Aisyah now! It's just that my relationship with Papa isn't that good, so I miss him a lot hihihi ," replied @abeljaitov.
This upload also reaped various reactions from netizens. Many also gave support for Abel to remain strong in facing this situation. Netizens hope that one day his relationship with his father can improve.
" Don't stop praying, Sis, only God can turn people's hearts around. Believe in God, there will definitely be a time when you can hug your father's body again, exchange stories, cry and laugh together, and much more. Stay strong, Sis ," wrote @cookiescream_69.
" Ihhh I'm in this position. Big hug Sis, I know the pain and disappointment, but he is still our father ," said @glacecandyy.
" I cried so much reading this... You're really great, you don't blame your father for everything that happened ," commented @ameliakhairunnisaaa.
As is known, Abel is the daughter of Bang Tigor's first marriage with Selly Suryani Gunawan. The two were married in 1998 and had lived together before differences in beliefs became a stumbling block.
Divorce was inevitable, making Bang Tigor and Selly choose their own paths. Since then, the relationship between father and son has not been as close as before, leaving a distance that is still felt today.
(brl/lea)
