Retno Wulandari  14 March 2017 19:00

If you’ve spent your childhood years in Indonesia, especially in Java, you must have known es dung-dung, a traditional ice cream sold by peddlers who knock their carts with a stick, making “dung! dung!” sound — hence, the name.

Even until now, es dung-dung sellers can be easily found in most neighborhoods, maybe except in high-class real estates. They go around from one neighborhood to another, usually in broad daylight, offering the sweet dessert for kids (and adults) with sweet tooth. The price for a cone of ice cream used to be only around few hundreds rupiah, but nowadays the price is around Rp 2,000 or Rp 3,000 per cone.

Pak Rudi, who I met a few days ago, is one of the es dung-dung sellers. He has been doing the same job since 1986.

“I’ve started selling es dung-dung around 30 years ago, when I first arrived in Jakarta,” he recalled. “I had my friend teach me how to make the ice cream, and I’ve been selling this around here ever since.”

You can either have es dung dung on a cone, in a cup, or on a sliced bread. (Brilio/Retno Wulandari)

Rudi wanders around in East Jakarta to sell his ice cream. He usually starts around Cipinang Muara area and ends the day in Prumpung area near Jatinegara Station. It’s about 12 to 14 kilometers in a roundtrip.

He starts selling at around 10 a.m. every day, right after he finishes his other job.

“I have a side job to earn more. I can’t rely only on es dung-dung,” he said while putting layers of ice cream on a cone. “Every morning I help moving ice blocks from the delivery truck to my employer’s house.”

His morning job gets him around Rp 250,000 a month, but his income from selling ice cream is unpredictable. Sometimes he can get Rp 100,000 to Rp 150,000 per day, but at times he goes home with only Rp 60,000 in his pocket.

“I’m glad that today’s kids still love to eat street ice cream although modern ice cream is everywhere. I think it’s because traditional ice cream is very affordable yet tasty. It also reminds many people of the good old days.”

To preserve the taste, Pak Rudi makes his own ice cream.

“In the evening, I go to the market to buy the ingredients: coconut milk, sugar, flour and salt. I wake up at 3 a.m. and start stirring all ingredients until they’re perfectly mixed. I put the mixture into a stainless steel cormorant, which the I put in the middle of a box full of ice blocks. Then, I stir the mixture constantly until it freezes and dries,” he said. “I finish the process at 5 a.m..”

Homemade es dung dung. (Brilio/Retno Wulandari)

Stirring is the traditional method of ice cream making. That’s how es dung-dung gets its other name, es puter (stirred ice cream).

Though his daily life looks hard, Pak Rudi is grateful with what he has right now. At least, he said that he managed to send his daughter to college and his other two children to secondary school.

“I’m grateful. After all, everyone has his own allotments in life, right?” he said with a smile.

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Retno Wulandari  04 March 2017 10:54

Pasar Santa in South Jakarta is no ordinary traditional market.

It has transformed into a popular shopping center among young people of Jakarta since it started to sell out-of-the-box snacks, vinyls, vapes, old records and customized jewelry. The market even has its own Instagram account.

But Pasar Santa never loses its soul as a traditional market as most of the stalls are still the same humble and modest stalls that have been there for years.

Amongst the grocery stores and hipster shops are some traditioal food stalls, and one of them is Warung Jawa owned by Linawati. 

Linawati sells various kinds of food, but her best sellers are Soto Ayam and Gudeg, a signature dish from Yogyakarta that consists of seasoned hard-boiled egg, stirred cow skin (kerecek), boiled chicken, and sweet jackfruit stew. I took some time to talk to her.

How long have you been running this food stall?

I’ve been here for about a year and a half. Before, my stall was located at a shopping complex not too far from here, but now it has been demolished and fenced. They said it caused traffic jam, so no one is allowed to open any stall anymore there. So, I moved here in 2015.

Did you lose customers?

No, not really. My customers knew that I moved here and they still come. I also get new customers here, so this place is okay to do this kind of businesses. People come here to get breakfast and lunch.

Do you cook all these food by yourself? How do you manage to do that?

Yes, I do. Every single day. After I closed my stall, I go shopping to get my vegetables and eggs. I cook at night and continue very early in the morning, around 3:30 a.m.. After that, I go shopping once again to buy meat, chicken and fish and then cook them so they will still be fresh when served. I have to get things done as early as possible because I have to open my stall at 7 a.m.. People usually come here for breakfast.

How many ingredients you purchase and cook every day?

I buy rice monthly and I cook about 8 to 10 liters of it every day. For eggs, I buy around 7 kilograms each day. I buy one kilogram of onion, one kilogram of garlic. I also buy two packs of salt, two kilograms of palm sugar, four kilograms of cooking oil, six to seven kilograms of cow skin and young jackfruits, six coconuts, seven to eight chickens, vegetables and some other stuff. That’s in general.

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Do you have any assistant to help you?

No, for cooking, I do it alone. My husband also runs a food stall just like this in Kuningan Barat area. I have two children but the girl is still in the secondary school and the boy just graduated from a vocational school and is currently looking for a job.

What are people’s favorites here?

Soto sells very well, especially in rainy days. Usually, people look for something soupy and hot to warm them up. But sometimes gudeg gets sold out first.

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  25 January 2017 11:17

Personality traits such as moodiness or open-mindedness are linked to the shape of one's brain, a study said Wednesday.

Researchers said they found a striking correlation between structural brain differences and five main personality types.

"The shape of our brain can itself provide surprising clues about how we behave -- and our risk of developing mental health disorders," said a statement from the University of Cambridge, which took part in the study.

Psychologists have previously developed a "Big Five" model of main personality types: neuroticism (how moody a person is), extraversion (how enthusiastic), open-mindedness, agreeableness (a measure of altruism) and conscientiousness (a measure of self control).

Using brain scans from over 500 people aged 22 to 36, the new study looked at differences in the cortex -- the wrinkly outer layer of the brain also known as grey matter.

Specifically it focussed on combinations of thickness, surface area, and the number of folds in different people.

"We found that neuroticism... was linked to a thicker cortex and a smaller area and folding in some brain regions," said study co-author Roberta Riccelli of Italy's Magna Graecia University.

Conversely, openness, "was associated with a thinner cortex and greater area and folding".

Neuroticism, the team said, was a trait underlying mental illnesses such as anxiety disorders, whereas "openness" reflects curiosity and creativity.

The deep folds in the human brain were the evolutionary solution to fitting such a large, super-computer into a relatively small skull. 

"It's like stretching and folding a rubber sheet -- this increases the surface area, but at the same time the sheet itself becomes thinner," co-author Luca Passamonti of the University of Cambridge explained in a statement.

- Nature vs Nurture? -

The study was the first to clearly link the "Big Five" personality traits to differences in brain shape, Riccelli told AFP.

This, in turn, was "a crucial step to improving our understanding of mental disorders," she said.

"It may give us the opportunity to detect those who are at high risk of developing mental illnesses early, which has obvious implications for prompt intervention."

The research touches on a question that has occupied the minds of philosophers and scientists for centuries -- are humans more a product of their genes, or of their upbringing and exposure?

The study, published in the journal Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, could not conclude that brain shape determines a personality type, its authors said.

"We cannot answer the question: 'What came first, the chicken or the egg?'," said Riccelli. 

"Hence we can't say if we have a specific personality type because our brain has a specific shape."

Brain shape, in itself, is determined by genetic as well as environmental factors, she pointed out.

The team hypothesised that brain differences may be even more pronounced in people likelier to suffer from neuro-psychiatric illnesses.

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Retno Wulandari  20 July 2016 06:55

Brilio.net - With Generation X ready to pass the workplace torch on to millennials, office culture is about to change. Whether you’re a fellow millennial who wants to study up on his peers or a stakeholder in a company that employs a lot of young people, getting to know this new generation is essential.

Millennials have modern values, desires and characteristics. A recent study by advertising intelligence firm Exponential that examined the behavior and characteristics of over 4 million Millennials identified at least six different archetypes in the workplace. Scroll down for the list!

1.The Travel Junkies

With all the chances they now have to travel open before them, this group of millennials wants to see the world, even if they have to do it on a tight budget. They want to visit destinations that were once unheard of except to the ultra-wealthy, immerse themselves in foreign culture, and take part in as many experiences along the way as possible to improve their skills and enrich their lives.

These travel enthusiasts love to work for companies that offer the chance to work remotely, or with lots of freedom and flexibility to work while jumping from one adventure to another. For them, working behind the desk, every single day at the physical office is old-fashioned and they will likely avoid companies that offer that. However, they would be willing to sit and work for a time, if the company then gave them plenty of time off.

Even though they’re unlikely to settle, these kind of Millennials mostly know what they are doing and are less likely to take their freedom for granted. Instead, they will exchange it for responsibility and loyalty. Remember, they need the money to fund their journeys!

2. The Free-spirited

With “you only live once” (YOLO) in their minds, the free-spirited millennials are carefree and enthusiast souls. Their eyes are glued to screens, checking social media as they build their digital personas. They have a strong need to stay connected and while not busy working they can be found checking for new notifications or posting some new selfies.

Mastering this new digital world, these exuberant Millennials can be compared to the “cool kids” at school. They love to find share-worthy photos, contents, or videos in the hopes of inspiring fellow Millennials.

Though they seem to be distracted easily, when it comes to creative brainstorming and when you need ideas for engaging social contents, the free-spirited Millennials are the perfect people to ask.

3. The Conventional

Despite the Millennial label on their foreheads, this group loves nostalgia as a comforting, bittersweet retreat. Instead of breaking boundaries and shaking things off, these types of Millennials prefer to keep things the way they’ve always been. These workers feel close to the Baby Boomer generation.

But, the Conventionals can’t be (and don’t want to be) completely offline. While they love to collect good books and radio cassettes, their young souls are hungry to absorb more information. These are the users who scroll through Facebook, Tumblr and Instagram absorbing the activities and opinions of others, without the need to constantly share their thoughts with the world. They likely have more content saved than they will ever have time to read, just the same way past generations kept scrapbooks.

This group of millennials is concerned about saving to buy a home, a vehicle and getting settled. They prefer to keep the job they have instead of finding new challenges at new places. They are able to work long hours, tend to respect their superiors and hardly ever missed a deadline, but might be less innovative than other groups.

4. The Achiever

With the level of wisdom and experience they have, it’s hard to believe that the Achievers belong to this generation. They are the go-getters who are always hungry to learn new skills and absorb as many as they can. They love to challenge themselves to reach milestones earlier than most of their fellow millennials.

As expected, they live with a high level of commitment to and enthusiasm for their careers. These ambitious young minds make great salespeople and business executives as they are energized by goals and competitions.

Despite all those qualities, the Achievers need constant challenges and stimulation to keep them on fire. Once they find a working environment gradually boring (which happens quickly and frequently), they will easily hop from one job to another.

5. The Fierce Bachelorette

“I am many things, stupid is not one of them,” says Scandal’s Olivia Pope, the fictional character who inspires this group of female millennials. The Fierce Bachelorettes live with big hopes and big dreams and they don’t want to wait until one of them is accomplished to have a big lifestyle. They have been raised to believe there are no stairs too steep for them to climb.  

With a tendency to prioritize work over love and friendships, they believe women can do anything men can do and they’re ready to prove it to the world. They strive for leadership positions, although their journey can be challenging. When personal image is the top priority besides work, spending and shopping become a habit.

6. The Millennials Mom

While working moms are now the norm, it’s easy to find Millennial Moms roaming the workplace. Perhaps the most interesting group on this list, they have encountered most of the influences described above, but in the brand-new perspective of a parent. According to the study, roughly 1.13 million out of 4 million millennials analyzed were mothers.

With more purchasing power, they tend to be big spenders, even compared to their fellow millennials (who generally spend a lot). They’re digitally-savvy and as hungry to learn as any other group, but with more wisdom and a tendency to settle down on one career path.

They want flexibility at work and more time to spend with family. Thus, they rarely spend after-hours anywhere other than home like their single counterparts.

 

With family and kids in mind, they are more mature and responsible, but can be as ambitious as The Achiever or Fierce Bachelorette.

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Retno Wulandari  15 July 2016 12:45

Brilio.net - You probably never give a second thought about the kind of coffee you order but with coffee shops everywhere and so many styles to choose from, this hugely popular beverage is providing the opportunity the to study people’s preferences.

Scientists looked at 1,000 coffee drinkers and drew conclusions linking personality traits and types with people’s preferences. They say they’ve found some profound understanding into the kinds of individuals we are by looking at the coffee we drink.

So, the question is, do you like your coffee black? Would you like some milk in your espresso? Or do you prefer a blended, creamy Frappuccino?  Scroll down to find out!

The Latte

When you like to add milk and sugar to your coffee, you literally like to add some sweetness to this bitter world. As a comfort seeker, you tend to be laid back and reflective. You are easy going and can be indecisive. While you tend to be a fence sitter, you prefer to be a team player rather than a single responsible bearer. You love to take things as fun, and managed to nurture your inner child to make you keep young at heart.

You love comfortable trousers of a pair of old jeans, a comfy shirt (or T-shirt) and a pair sneakers to accompany your light steps. As an alternative for milk in your coffee, you might love to add some scoop of ice cream instead.

 

The Espresso

You’re quick, easy, and to the point. So you love your coffee to be fast and simple. You’re reliable and loyal, and born to be a leader. You are usually punctual and can’t bear any delay and slowness in this fast paced world. You speed up conversations, moving from one task to another in a flash of light. You know what you want, and used to know how to get there (and you’re always on your way!).

You’re hardworking, but might need constant booster throughout the day. Five shots in just one morning? Just an ordinary thing to keep you from getting moody and broody (which you have a tendency to do).

We know you’re driven by ambitions, but remember to one day a week to slow down, to keep your mind and body from blowing.


The Long Black

When you like your coffee straight up, you like things black and white. You’re straightforward, quiet and moody but extroverted when needed. You’re not a follower and have the potential to be a conservative leader who tends to avoid conflict or change. You’re reliable and rarely mess around, and that’s what people like about you.

You love freshly pressed suits and neat hair. You drink your daily long black in a hilarious mug to show that you’re not too totally straightlaced. When things started to be somewhat unbearable, to lighten things up, a drop of milk or two won’t hurt!

 

The Cappuccino Person

You are sociable, creative, skilled and optimistic, but the cappuccino you sip reveals some signs of wanting control. You may be somewhat over the top, but you are exceptionally inventive and inspired. Though you’re an artistic and creative person, you rarely follow trends and enjoy time on your own. While you tend to be detail-oriented, you hardly ever share your personal details to others. You feel totally at home in a coffee shop, but you are surprisingly introverted. More than anything though, you have class.

 

The Affogato Person

You love your coffee to stay black, but you’ve got a sweet tooth so you like a scoop of vanilla ice cream, chocolate sprinkles and a cherry on top. The Affogato is not exactly the kind of coffee that people sip every day (lots of calories!), but it says a lot about its fans. When you love Affogato, it means you are playful, happy and always up for a good time. You’re not really a morning person, but you can work like a dog late at night. That’s when you want your coffee as a treat. You do things at your own pace, and that way you find some fun in everything you do.

 

The Frappuccino Person

One choco-caramel blended please! You’re forever young at heart, fashionable, stylish and spontaneous. New and unique things don’t scare you so you have all the potentials to be a trendsetter. Roam the city with your stylish scarf and tiny bag, you’re always on the move and are hardly ever seen drinking in a coffee shop (you really don’t have time!). You keep your eyes glued to your phone, updating Pinterest with lifestyle and fashion tips. But maybe you could take a little more time for yourself.

Whatever your coffee preference, you keep doing you!

Stay thirsty, friends.

 

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Celia Tholozan  08 June 2016 12:57

Brilio.net - To be able to read body language of others can be very useful to understand what’s actually on their minds. Here are a few statements to help you decipher what other people are really thinking.

1. Crossed arms and legs are definitely a sign of resistance

Even if we are not always aware of it, crossing our body is revealing of a resistant state of mind. The person who’s crossing his or her legs or arms while talking to you isn’t necessarily rejecting you, but part of themselves isn’t open. Unconsciously still, this can evolve during the conversation: the resitance can be warmed up with words but also by the attitude of the interlocutor.

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2. One’s real smile is in the eye, not the mouth

It happens a lot that you notice someone is smiling but doesn’t seem happy. In our societies it became a sort of obligation to smile in certain situations, in order to send a positive image but also to respect the unspoken communication code. Next time you doubt a smile, look at that person’s eyes.It is actually very easy to separate the upper part of one’s face, and this part never lies!

3. The eyebrows reveal everything

As just mentioned, the upper part of the face generally never lies. By looking at someone’s eyebrow and how this person controls it or not can tell a lot about his or her current mood and degree of interest.

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4. The posture tells everything about the leadership’s power

The easiest to spot, if a person is in a situation of confidence, the body posture will be naturally open and the gestures will be expressive. On the other hand, in some situations we just want to go unnoticed and the body will curve a bit on its own. Observing these seemingly minor details can help you understand a dialogue much better.

5. Starring in the eye is not always a sign of honesty

The way people look can be very tricky and is the hardest sign to observe. Looking straight in someone’s eyes can be a sign of honesty but the belief that liars always look on the side or down is not accurate either. Many people are aware of the power of the look and can perfectly lie to you while looking at you directly in your eyes.

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6. Mimetism is an encouraging sign

If the person in front of you starts to copy your movements, by sitting the same way as you do for example, or adopting your arms gesture, it is a very good sign. When we copy someone’s moves, it means that we are actually trying to understand the person we have in front, to get into his world and try to see and feel the same way that we do. Experts even say that it is one of the best ways to make new friends.

 

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Victoria Tunggono  07 June 2016 12:51

Brilio.net - We have all been there. Being 13 and lost in the transitional phase of our life, drifting between childhood and adulthood in the strange time known as the age of teen. Everything from hormones to bodies, emotions and feelings, and even friends is in flux only that they feel the changes in their bodies, emotions and feelings, their friends changed too. As parents we sometimes forget that our daughters are experiencing this and can sometimes neglect to ask them how they are dealing with the changes.

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"Girls are at their fiercest and most authentic prior to puberty," notes Rachel Simmons, author of three books on girlhood and cofounder of Girls Leadership, the US nonprofit foundation that provides training, education and workshops to girls and supportive adults.

As posted at Mashable, below are the 7 skills your daughter needs from her parents in order to become a strong woman for the future:

1. How to respect and express her feelings

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People usually correlate girls (and women)as being in touch with their emotional side, and thus able to more easily communicate their feelings. But contrary to popular belief, this is a skill that needs to be learned and practised.

It is important for girls to have the emotional intelligence. It is, says Simmons, the ability to describe and convey the full range of human emotion. But in reality, girls often suppress certain feelings amidst growing up as they are taught to value being happy and liked over raw, authentic emotion.

As parents, it is our task to show our daughters how to "flex the muscle of expressing their strongest feelings," Simmons advised. To do so, they can express their own emotions with an expansive vocabulary by using words like happy, angry, excited, nervous, confused, scared, and frustrated.

This way, parents can help their daughters adequately express their emotions by honoring their experiences as opposed to diminishing or questioning them. Simmons says, “When your girls express authentic emotions — even if they’re difficult — you take them seriously. You don’t deny them or challenge them."

 

2. How to feel self-compassion

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Simmons says, “Girls get a lot of messages that it's important to please others. So when they experience a setback, it often feels like letting someone else down.” Studies showed that adolescent girls might be exposed to more interpersonal stress than boys. That makes them more likely to ruminate on negative feelings, which puts them at a greater risk for depression.

To help prevent this cycle of suffering, Simmons recommends that parents teach their daughters how to deal with failure. "What we want is for girls to have is the capacity to move through a setback without beating themselves up," says Simmons.  

This means teaching girls how to relate to themselves and practice self-compassion in a moment of crisis. It's important that instead of criticizing herself harshly, she focus on the universality of disappointment and practice self-kindness. By realizing others share the same experience, she'll be better prepared to treat herself compassionately and develop resilience.

 

3. How to develop a positive relationship with her body

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In the world of selfies and reality show programs, the lines between self-objectification and self-empowerment are frequently blurred. Young girls might not know how to view themselves as anything beyond objects of desire.

Introducing them to sports is a way to help them develop a holistic, positive relationship with their body. The physical activity gives them an opportunity to see their bodies as capable of strength and stamina, rather than being valued only for appearance. Research shows that sports can directly affect a girl's self-perception and self-confidence.

But even girls who feel physically capable and confident might still feel ashamed of their body and its sexuality. Simmons recommends talking with girls about their bodies from toddlerhood so they are used to it and comfortable with it. Parents should know and use the right names for genitalia and do their best to "represent sex as a healthy, beautiful experience that should be had with joy and consent." It also means talking about what consent means early on and emphasizing that a girl's body belongs to her alone.

"When girls feel uncomfortable with their bodies," says Simmons, "they can also disconnect from how they are really feeling, and worry more about how someone else is feeling, or what they want, instead."

 

4. How to learn from friendships

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Friendships are mostly paramount for girls, but we shouldn't take female friendship for granted, says Simmons. Relationships help girls learn to assert themselves, to compromise and set boundaries.

Parents should view friendships as an opportunity to show girls what healthy relationships look like and how they can relate to others and themselves. The parenting role that can help here is to ask them things that annoyed her when she has a problem with her friends, and work on with her for solutions. “Encouraging her to communicate honestly and reasonably assert herself,” says Simmons, “provides her with skills that she'll need to push for a raise as an adult.”

 

5. How to deal with bullying

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No parent wants to learn his or her child is being bullied — or has become the bully. Dealing with either situation is challenging because it involves so many factors: communication, friendship and a parent's own emotional intelligence.

"Girls will bully because they don’t have the tools to deal with their feelings," says Simmons. And when girls are bullied, they often feel powerless to stand up for themselves. In both cases, Simmons recommends making sure they ask for help from an adult as needed and practice assertive but respectful communication. She admits, though, that approach won't always work, so girls must know when to step away from a situation that is "unkind" and "unethical."

These are critical skills to teach a girl, but many parents don't even possess them. Some will encourage bullying behavior or intervene every time their daughter complains about a difficult interaction. Parents, says Simmons, have to accept responsibility for their own role: "They have to set the tone early on for what’s OK in relationships and not."

 

6. How to embrace her gender identity

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“From exposure to stars like Caitlyn Jenner and Miley Cyrus to Facebook's 50-plus gender identification options, girls are learning about gender identity and fluidity at increasingly early ages,” says Julie Mencher, a Massachusetts-based psychotherapist and educator who specializes in gender diversity and LGBT issues.

“The message they're hearing is that gender is not simply male or female anymore. This increased attention to gender,” says Mencher, "gives us the opportunity to teach [children] that there's not just a spectrum of masculinity to femininity out there in the world, but inside each of us as well."

Mencher recommends parents use language that expands the gender binary beyond the traditional ‘boy and girl’ notions in order to include identities like transgender, genderqueer, gender-fluid and gender-neutral. It's also important to describe human characteristics and emotions not just in gender-based terms, especially that girls are always emotional.

Parents should reflect on their own identities as well, noting how much they embrace their "female masculinity" and "male femininity." Creating this kind of openness in your language and relationship will help a girl develop confidence in her own gender identity — no matter what that might be.

 

7. How to lead

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We have more powerful female role models than ever before, but girls still find it difficult to develop leadership skills amidst the stigma of being called aggressive or bossy.

It's even harder when they don't know how to communicate their honest feelings, assert themselves, practice self-compassion, handle bullying or embrace their identity will probably have a tough time becoming a leader. That's why it's so important for a girl to cultivate a diverse set of life skills.

There are, however, specific strategies parents can use to encourage their daughter to take a leadership role. Fathers who evenly share household duties are more likely to raise daughters who believe they have a broader range of career options. Mothers can set their own example by taking on a leadership role at work or in a volunteer capacity.

Simmons says that sports offer another way to teach leadership skills to girls; it's a "pre-professional environment" that can help them succeed well past the season's end.

"There's a very powerful and painful unwritten communication code among girls that you’re not supposed to say what you really think to someone’s face and you're not supposed to promote yourself," says Simmons. "Sports perverts all of that; they can do that and be rewarded for it."

These important skills aren't easy to master, but the more chances a girl has to practice them under the guidance of a trusted adult, the more likely she'll feel confident and self-assured as a teenager.

 

Source: mashable

 

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